Some days can contain a lot of anger. Sometimes we have no idea why.
We try to blame it on our kids and rant and rave on why they're not picking up after themselves, but then we're still angry. That didn't solve anything. It didn't get rid of that emotion.
Maybe it's our husbands fault for not getting the right pasta sauce: I wrote it on the list, how come you didn't get it, and blah blah blah blah blah. We try to take it out on him. That doesn't work. You're still angry, and...
What we thought matters most to us just isn't making us happy anymore.
We can get in this funk. We can try taking a walk, because that's helped in the past. Or, letting go and eating some ice cream and treating ourselves. That's helped in the past and made us more happy. Or, go out with coffee and chat with our friends. That's helped us in the past, but none of it's working right now.
So why is that?
I have a feeling that deep within your heart, deep in that intuition, that...
Sometimes we want to get stuff done, but are exhausted and just don't have the energy. You may wish that you had the energy to focus on what really matters to you, but you just can't.
Most of the time in these moments, your expectations are too high. They do not match the version of you in this moment, or what you're capable of doing in this moment. So it's your expectations that are dictating this moment, not realistic solutions and realistic actions.
If you are in a...
Do you find yourself thinking: If they didn't do that then I wouldn't be feeling this way, and how could they? Don't they realize that that goes against everything I stand for? How dare they.
People are just doing what works for them, and what gets them through the day. They're really not thinking about you in that moment.
And guest what? You don't have to stop getting offended.
What I highly suggest you do is stop allowing your emotions to dictate your actions towards others....
How do you come to respect other people's opinion, and why is respecting other people's opinions even important?
When we open ourselves to respecting other people's opinions, we bring back a sense of humanity to a situation. When we focus on our opinion vs. their opinion, we don't see the person behind that idea. We can't see what brought them to this point and what might be going on in their lives.
We may be in a situation where we need to work with this person, and...
When we're stressed, the mind wants to go a mile a minute. It can feel like oh my God, like I need to do this, and I wish I could do this. It's just idea, idea, idea.
Your mind just wants you out of your stressful moment. And, that's awesome. It's helping you out. It's actually saying: this sucks, you know you don't want to be here. So I'm gonna to give you ideas of things you used to do in the past because you need to feel relaxed.
It's like this big neon sign. Relax!...
What happens for you when you feel disappointed and wish you a task a little bit better, you did something or said something, or wish you didn't?!
Many times we jump straight into another action. We don't give ourselves permission to just be disappointed. Instead, try to feel what it feels like in your body. Sit there with those body sensations, not the thoughts, not the stories.
If thoughts and stories do appear, allow them to be. But don't really give them a lot of your...
Let's just get right down to it, it all depends.
Sometimes we need those little moments where we say okay, let's just do this, let's just get over the fear and just bam, do it.
But then sometimes when you're finished, you think, okay, I did it. Yet, there's this part of you that doesn't feel right with the results. You wished you would have taken a little more time. And I think the reason why that happens is because you weren't really connected to what you actually...
Sometimes people don't want to listen to our advice.
They want to just keep on making the same mistakes, even when we are a person that knows better, that's been there, done that. We know exactly what they need. We tell them what they need, but they still won't listen.
That can be frustrating.
So what are some things you can do?
Well first off you can honor them. You can use this method that actually I learned from Susan Stiffelman, a family and marriage therapist. She...
Have you dealt with someone who thinks that they're never wrong and they usually don't apologize for anything?
This can be so frustrating!
But you know what?
It's okay. Give yourself permission to be frustrated. Allow those emotions. But don't throw those emotions on top of the situation.
So what do I mean by that?
Feel them in your body, but take a moment to not say something to this person.
Take a step back. Communicate to them that, "You know what? I need a moment to myself....